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8. Reading some reviews, I feel like you might have some philosophy under your belt. If you do, consider Aristotle's argument about the Golden Mean. Things are destructive when practiced in excess. Likewise, they are destructive if never addressed at all. Is it possible that abstinence is the Golden Mean? All the benefits of sex are gained after marriage, with no consequences of gaining an STD. Sex between marriage partners is the unique bond that they have with each other and with nobody else. Isn't this worth something to you?

9. Finally, what are those things in life that you value? A great retirement? A big house? A nice car? A good education? What in life is valuable that you did not have to wait for? Wealth is built over a series of decades, not a series of days. A good education takes at least 15 years to accomplish. These are all things worth waiting for. Look at kids who have been spoiled and handed everything. They are often unappreciative, arrogant, and shallow. Do you respect these kinds of kids? Their parents give them everything and they can't live a day without daddy's plastic. What makes you think sex or anything else is different? If you want sex to become a shallow, "casual", physical "expression", lose your virginity early. If you want to risk it being meaningful, consider abstinence.

Here's some sources.
"The Republic", Plato
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Parenting/S...
http://www.slate.com/id/2159995/
http://www.students.haverford.edu/mas...

-MHM

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5. One of your statements is flat-out confusing. "The best lover I’ve ever had was a girl that didn’t want a relationship with me, and I didn’t want one with her". What is sex to you? Do you "love" when you have sex or is it emotionless? I thought you said in many contexts, emotions are a non-issue. Your terms indicate there's something more there than physical satisfaction, but earlier, you argue against that. Are you really sure she had no hopes of beginning a relationship? Or is your idea of "love" so misconstrued that it's nothing more than a physical urge? If "love" is nothing more than gaining physical satisfaction, I'll keep my abstinence and my far-less-shallow meaning of love.

6. Your biggest worry about remaining abstinent seems to be that your future love might have hair between her legs and can outlast you! But, you're willing to risk getting STD's, risk destroying other people's relationships, and risk undermining future marriages so you won't have to deal with this. If "trimming short and curlies" renders you speechless and frustrated, you're going to have a hell of a time being married and having to deal with finances, work, religion, kids, crises, etc.

7. Lastly, you never cite any sources in your article to back up your "claims". knig2187 correctly pointed out that "all of the benefits of sex can also be achieved by regular exercise, which has the added benefit of making you look better." Do you have sources that claim sex can do things exercise cannot?

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Rarely do I comment on local or column blog posts, but this made itself a worthy candidate. Not only is it a sad indicator of the state of American Culture, it's flat out chauvinistic.

Here's the issues:

1. Your view of sexuality revolves around your own selfishness. Instead of treating sex as something respectful, its just one more thing "to get" or "to do". You say, "I bet you can spot at least one person in dire need of a good orgasm." COME ON! Is that how you look at the world: (You, pieces of meat around you and other men all trying to have a piece?!)? Grow up buddy.

2. You say "I am talking about sex between two honest, consenting adults, who are actually willing to be responsible and use some form of birth control." So, all of a sudden, "responsibility" with sex revolves around "NOT procreating". Isn't that what sex's primary purpose is? Regardless of whether you advocate abortion or not, getting pregnant is now all of a sudden a "consequence" of being irresponsible. "Responsibility" is making sure you enjoy all the benefits, without thinking about or dealing with the consequences.

3. Another one of your assertions, "The people that have the most problems with the idea that their partners have had prior casual sexual experiences are the people that believe that sex must entail a wide variety of emotions that simply don’t occur in many contexts." is COMPLETELY FACTUALLY BASELESS. Where's the evidence for this? What article are you citing? What scientific evidence is there for this? So, if you can have sex without any emotion, whats wrong with cheating? As long as it's just a physical thing and not an emotional thing, whats the difference between having sex and giving a hug (besides the extraneous issues of which body parts you are using)? Is sex really this "un-special"?

4. Your statement "Before you start messing around with the holiest of holies, make sure you’re bagging it." reveals a lot about what you think about your anatomy and yourself. "Holiest of holies"? Really? Do you worship your own body parts? Come on, get over yourself!

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