Every woman swears that she wants a good man, a kind man, the
best man in the world. But is that really true? Look at all of the
people around you, maybe even take a moment to take an honest look
at yourself.

Do you do what is necessary to get a good guy? Do you demand
that you are treated with respect, or do you allow yourself to be
treated indifferently?

Do you say that you want a committed relationship but have sex
with him on the first date? If you are not putting in the work, why
are you surprised that he is not?

I know a woman who is beautiful, kind, sweet and intelligent who
cannot find a good guy. She is not looking for a husband, just a
man who will treat her well and with the utmost respect.

My friend and I told her that there are a lot of good guys in
the world, and a lot of good guys here. I believe that to be true.
I also believe there are not as many strong females who require
them to be the best men they can be.

Am I saying that it is a woman’s responsibility to make
young men, for lack of a better term, act right? Hell yes.

A man will never treat you bad if you don’t let him.
Either he will treat you better or leave and find someone who will
allow him to mistreat her.

If he leaves, let him go. He wasn’t worth it. (I don't
care how fine he is!) Stop bending over and stand up straight and
tall like the queen that you want to be.

If you are not strong enough to stand up for yourself and
command the respect you desire and should require some time off to
get to know yourself, you may discover that you are pretty great
and are worth more.

Remember: if there is an easy way out of any situation, I know I
would take it and so would pretty much anyone else. Men are no
different. Why bring the flowers and candy when you don’t
even think you’re worthy?

— Kim Cartwright is an English and professional writing
senior. Her column appears every other Friday. She can be reached
at dailyopinion@ou.edu.
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